Pra quem não conhece ou não se lembra, Pollyanna é a personagem principal do livro de mesmo nome, publicado em 1913 por Eleanor H. Porter que até virou um filme em 1960. É a história de uma orfã pobre e que é mandada aos cuidados da tia, única parente viva, e passa por muitos maus-bocados em sua jovem vida.
Quando li o livro, no início da minha adolescência, me lembro do quanto me identifiquei com a menina da história! Não pelos problemas que ela tinha que enfrentar em cada novo parágrafo, mas por causa da atitude que ela adotava frente a eles. Pollyanna acreditava que nada era tão ruim quanto parecia e sempre encontrava um ponto positivo em cada acontecimento, ao que ela chamava de Jogo do Contente.
Fui aprendendo, ao crescer, que não adiantava sentar e chorar a cada vez que alguma coisa dava errado. Que nenhum problema iria se resolver sozinho e que eu tinha era que levantar e fazer algo pra corrigir ou mudar, se fosse o caso.
Isso tem um nome e se chama equanimidade. É a atitude de não se ligar a nenhum tipo de sentimento, bom ou ruim, causado por uma situação, boa ou ruim. É manter o equilíbrio perfeito do estado de ânimo.
Quando a mente está livre de julgamentos do tipo "que droga", "que azar", "que maravilha" ou "que delícia", a gente consegue enxergar as coisas como elas realmente são e tomar a decisão certa, sem preconceito ou a influência do sentimento, o que nos deixa menos racionais e embaça o pensamento lógico. A velha ideia de ser mais racional e menos emocional.
Isso não quer dizer que eu seja desprovida de sentimentos. A pessoa equânime, normalmente, é muito sensível consigo própria e com as outras pessoas e ao que acontece ao redor, mas, tenta nunca deixar seus sentimentos tomarem conta e atrapalharem seu raciocínio.
A mente deprimida ou eufórica enxerga qualidades e situações que podem não retratar exatamente a realidade. E eu sempre tive essa habilidade. Nos últimos anos, venho explorando e desenvolvendo cada dia mais minha equanimidade natural, o que me ajuda muito a lidar com as dificuldades e na aceitação das coisas como elas realmente são, inclusive eu mesma! :-)
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A few weeks ago, I heard from someone dear to me that I'm more equanimous than I think. That made me glad because it opened my eyes to face in a different way a characteristic of mine that I never really liked much: the 'Pollyanna attitude' of thinking that no misfortune is so terrible that has no remedy. It used to make me feel as if I gave less importance than I should to the problems.
For those who don't know or don't remember, Pollyanna is the main character of the book with the same name, published in 1913 by Eleanor H. Porter that became a movie in 1960. It is the story of a poor girl, orphan who is sent to the care of her aunt, her only relative left, and goes through a lot of ill-bits in her young life.
When I read the book in my early teens, I remember how much I identified myself with the girl in the story! Not because of the problems she had to face in each new paragraph, but because of the attitude she had towards them. Pollyanna believed that nothing was as bad as it seemed and always found a positive point in every event, to what she called the Glad Game.
I learned, as I was growing up, that it was no use to sit down and cry every time something went wrong. That no problem would resolve by itself and that I had to get up and do something to fix it or change it, if there was anything to be done.
That attitude has a name and it is called equanimity. It's the attitude of not connecting to any kind of feeling, good or bad, caused by a situation, good or bad. It is maintaining the perfect balance of your mood.
When the mind is free of judgments like "damned", "bad luck", "wonderful" or "fantastic", we can see things as they really are and make the right decision without bias or the influence of our feelings, which makes us less rational and fogs our logical thinking. That's the old idea of being more rational and less emotional.
That doesn't mean that I'm devoid of feelings. The equanimous person is usually very sensitive about her/himself, about others and about what happens around, but she/he tries to never let her/him feelings get in the way and take over her/him reasoning.
The depressed or euphoric mind sees qualities and situations that can not exactly portray the reality. And I always had this ability. So, in recent years, I've been exploring and developing more and more each day my natural equanimity, which helps me a lot to deal with difficulties and with the acceptance of things as they really are, myself included! :-)
Fui aprendendo, ao crescer, que não adiantava sentar e chorar a cada vez que alguma coisa dava errado. Que nenhum problema iria se resolver sozinho e que eu tinha era que levantar e fazer algo pra corrigir ou mudar, se fosse o caso.
Isso tem um nome e se chama equanimidade. É a atitude de não se ligar a nenhum tipo de sentimento, bom ou ruim, causado por uma situação, boa ou ruim. É manter o equilíbrio perfeito do estado de ânimo.
Quando a mente está livre de julgamentos do tipo "que droga", "que azar", "que maravilha" ou "que delícia", a gente consegue enxergar as coisas como elas realmente são e tomar a decisão certa, sem preconceito ou a influência do sentimento, o que nos deixa menos racionais e embaça o pensamento lógico. A velha ideia de ser mais racional e menos emocional.
Isso não quer dizer que eu seja desprovida de sentimentos. A pessoa equânime, normalmente, é muito sensível consigo própria e com as outras pessoas e ao que acontece ao redor, mas, tenta nunca deixar seus sentimentos tomarem conta e atrapalharem seu raciocínio.
A mente deprimida ou eufórica enxerga qualidades e situações que podem não retratar exatamente a realidade. E eu sempre tive essa habilidade. Nos últimos anos, venho explorando e desenvolvendo cada dia mais minha equanimidade natural, o que me ajuda muito a lidar com as dificuldades e na aceitação das coisas como elas realmente são, inclusive eu mesma! :-)
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A few weeks ago, I heard from someone dear to me that I'm more equanimous than I think. That made me glad because it opened my eyes to face in a different way a characteristic of mine that I never really liked much: the 'Pollyanna attitude' of thinking that no misfortune is so terrible that has no remedy. It used to make me feel as if I gave less importance than I should to the problems.
For those who don't know or don't remember, Pollyanna is the main character of the book with the same name, published in 1913 by Eleanor H. Porter that became a movie in 1960. It is the story of a poor girl, orphan who is sent to the care of her aunt, her only relative left, and goes through a lot of ill-bits in her young life.
When I read the book in my early teens, I remember how much I identified myself with the girl in the story! Not because of the problems she had to face in each new paragraph, but because of the attitude she had towards them. Pollyanna believed that nothing was as bad as it seemed and always found a positive point in every event, to what she called the Glad Game.
I learned, as I was growing up, that it was no use to sit down and cry every time something went wrong. That no problem would resolve by itself and that I had to get up and do something to fix it or change it, if there was anything to be done.
That attitude has a name and it is called equanimity. It's the attitude of not connecting to any kind of feeling, good or bad, caused by a situation, good or bad. It is maintaining the perfect balance of your mood.
When the mind is free of judgments like "damned", "bad luck", "wonderful" or "fantastic", we can see things as they really are and make the right decision without bias or the influence of our feelings, which makes us less rational and fogs our logical thinking. That's the old idea of being more rational and less emotional.
That doesn't mean that I'm devoid of feelings. The equanimous person is usually very sensitive about her/himself, about others and about what happens around, but she/he tries to never let her/him feelings get in the way and take over her/him reasoning.
The depressed or euphoric mind sees qualities and situations that can not exactly portray the reality. And I always had this ability. So, in recent years, I've been exploring and developing more and more each day my natural equanimity, which helps me a lot to deal with difficulties and with the acceptance of things as they really are, myself included! :-)
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